About Rytis & Violeta

We are Rytis and Violeta, a married couple from Lithuania.

For seven years we have led Feeling Sessions, in person and online. Today it is six times a month, with fifty to a hundred people at a time, each of them lying down wherever they are, with their eyes covered. Thousands more follow our work.

Each of us has been on this road for more than ten years, and for the last seven we have walked it together.

Why we do this

Going inward is the great love and passion of our lives. We want to understand why so many people live stressed, feel bad and stay unhappy, and how a person gets out of that.

During the day we keep most of our attention on watching ourselves: noticing the thoughts, noticing the feelings in the body, staying aware. And we simply can’t keep what we find to ourselves. This is not something you are taught anywhere. Most people reach it the long way around, after years of searching.

Where it started

Ten years ago, people who met Rytis saw a happy, free young man. Inside he was someone else entirely: shut down, anxious, carrying more than he could name, and wearing a very convincing face over all of it. For years he ate six or seven times a day, big portions of everything. Only much later, when he began to lie down and feel, did he discover how much rage that food had been holding down. He had no idea it was there.

For years he also covered his anger with a thick layer of spirituality. It cost him a part of his strength, and in the end he had to meet the anger anyway.

The form of the Feeling Session was born in a small village in Bali, where Rytis spent a long time alone, studying what happened inside him. He lay down. He covered his eyes. He laid his hands down, palms toward the floor. And he did not let his body move. Then he watched what rose.

Violeta learned it in her own life too. In the house in Madeira where we used to run retreats, she would sometimes boil over, shout, and order people out of the house. At first we both tried to hide our anger from everyone. It didn’t work. What worked was feeling it.

And there was a time Rytis left for Lithuania without her. The story started at once: “We built everything together, and now he went off without me.” With it came a pressure in her chest, heavy and familiar. She could have called him. Instead she lay down and put all of her attention on the pressure itself. Every time the story pulled at her, she came back to the chest. The story never got its fuel.

We still do this at home, for the same reasons you would: the arguments that repeat, the money fear, the days when everything is too much.

What happens in our sessions

People lie down and cover their eyes. Then we guide them through the body. The throat. The chest. The stomach. Because feelings don’t live in the head. They live in the body.

We don’t talk about feelings. We feel them, right where they sit in the body. There is nothing to empty, count or picture. We guide people to the place in the body that presses most, and help them stay with it until it moves. In our sessions we lie for around an hour. We lead every session side by side.

People come with every kind of weight: a marriage going quiet, a mother who still knows exactly which button to press, money that never feels safe, a fear with no name that wakes them at three in the morning. Some have never done anything like this. Some have tried everything.

We never try to fix anyone. We are not therapists, and this is not therapy. We do one thing, again and again. We help people stop running from what they feel, for a few minutes at a time.

What you will find on infeeling.com

• Articles about heavy feelings, hard states, what the body carries, and the big events of a life. Each one has a short practice you can do right there, on the page.
• The Feeling Session, the method itself, step by step. Every article leads back to it.
• Our book, The Feeling Session. Everything we have learned in our sessions, written the way we speak in a session.
• Lighter, seven evenings at home, lying down, with us guiding you.
• A free personal letter from The Birth Letter, our project. It is written from your birth details and your question, following the method we use in our sessions. We don’t write each letter by hand.

How we prepare what you read here is on our editorial policy page. What this site is and isn’t is on our disclaimer page.

A few honest lines

We can’t promise you how long anything will take, or what it will turn into. Every body is different, and every session is different.

You don’t have to believe a word of what we say. Try it on your own body. Your body will tell you what is true.

Write to us anytime: help@thebirthletter.com. infeeling.com is run by MB “Violetinis rytas”, Beržų g. 10, Plateliai, LT-90422 Plungė District, Lithuania, the same company behind The Birth Letter.